All great goals! The trick they say is to break it down into little chunks. It is not that I will lose 25 or 30 pounds it is that I will lose 5 pounds. It is not that I will eat healthy. It is that I will eat one more vegetable or fruit each day. It is not that I will be a better person. It is that I will make an effort to listen to what others are saying and respond to their issues and concerns before thinking of mine.
Being separated or divorced can leave you feeling somewhat unsure of how to move forward in the New Year. May I suggest that you make a list – something for each month of the year that you hope to accomplish i.e.
January Lose those 5 pounds from Christmas
February Play with the children outside on a regular basis
March Wear something green on March 17th
April Plant some indoor flowers or plan your garden
May Read one book from beginning to end
June Bring out those summer clothes (revisit January goal if necessary)
July Bask in the sun
August Swim in a lake like you did as a child
September Back to school – maybe a class for you
October Enjoy Thanksgiving and give thanks for the last year and the changes you have made
November Sort through the winter clothes
December Volunteer at a local charity
See the list doesn’t have to be cumbersome – small steps towards the next stage of life.
Enjoy yourself and welcome in 2011 with all the changes it might bring. As the year progresses, you can always change your goals to suit your new lifestyle – a lifestyle that reflects the growing confidence you have in the person that you are.