Catherine Hyde, Paralegal
In recent years there has been an increase in separation of couples in the 55+ category. It seems once the children have left and you start to notice an increase in the people you know in the obituaries, you ask yourself- is this all there is? Thoughts of separation seep in. Before saying you want to separate, consider some financial aspects of separation and possible lifestyle changes.
First make a list of what property you own including realty, bank accounts, investments and what debts you have. Make a similar list for the assets and debts of your spouse. Look at what your retirement income might be from private pensions and government pensions. Armed with this information, make an appointment with a family law lawyer. The lawyer should be able to provide advice on a broad basis as to what your entitlements might be on a property division and whether spousal support is a possibility, for whom, and in what quantum and duration. All of this is subject to actual financial disclosure.
Having all the facts you can weigh whether going it on your own is feasible. The emotional issues and the financial reality must come together in making your decision. Counselling might be the answer for you. Attempting new things outside of your comfort zone might bring back the spark. If not, and separation is the route, ensure you follow through with your lawyer to enter into a separation agreement that ensures you achieve an equitable settlement.